Communication

GC2016 — The “We Need to Talk” Talk

For most people in relationship, the words “we need to talk,” rarely bode well.  The “we need to talk” talk generally comes as a “so long, farewell, auf Wiedersehen, goodbye” turning point, and this seems to be where about 11% of United Methodists (and 15% of General Conference delegates) think […]

GC2016 — Four Unpainted Corners

Drawing on the saying “we’ve painted ourselves in a corner,” I want to offer a metaphor/analogy.  Imagine if you will a ballroom.  Large, open, massive space, with a sizeable floor.  Four groups begin in the middle of the room to paint the floor, each moving in different directions toward a […]

Who Are We Again?

At a recent event, I made the statement that today’s United Methodist Church exists because our predecessor denominations held three critically important functions in common: missional service, evangelism and social justice.  In other words, we hold core values of caring for others, inviting all people into a life-changing, life-fulfilling relationship […]

Weapons of Intent

As I was reeling in the wake of the news from South Carolina yesterday, this came into my in box.  It is a reminder that violence takes many forms, and that the intent behind our acts have consequences.  Major acts get media attention, but minor acts impact our lives in […]

Different Worlds

Perhaps the most egregious error many people make is to assume that the way they think is normative.  When we operate from the assumption that other people see and make sense of the world the same way we do, we open ourselves to a world of hurt.  Each of us […]

To Read Or Not To Read…

I am a reader, and proud of it.  I rarely spend less than 3 hours each day reading, and I mean books, not just emails, articles, blogs, letters, ads, magazines, Post-It® Notes, etc.  On days off, I read more like 6-7 hours.  I am an eclectic reader.  There are few […]

Jumping to Confusions

What is it about we human animals and our tendency to climb the ladder of inference and leap blindly into a steaming pile of assumptions?  Each and every day we create chaos, confusion and pain for ourselves by ascribing intention, assuming motives, projecting values and jumping to conclusions.  Compounding this […]