The answer to the question, “what’s wrong with us?” is that we are fixated on the question “what’s wrong with us?”  Doom, gloom, decline, conflict, controversy, division, discord — all addressed with a cheery irrational rah-rah attitude.  National events that bludgeon participants with “Death Tsunami’s” and calls to action that lament our imminent demise are not going to motivate us to true systemic change.  Scare us?  Depress us?  Horrify and mortify us?  Certainly, as does every other abdication of leadership.  Were ministry primarily about problem-solving this might actually work, however, we are not merely managing a mess, but are charged with creating a future.  Focusing on what we aren’t, what we lack, what we’ve lost, and all the ways we are not what we once were is no way to envision new possibilities and potential.  It doesn’t take a genius to figure this out.  What we were in 1968 is not going to help us figure out who God wants us to be in 2018.  Our focus needs to be on who we are, what we have, and how we can most effectively live into the future.  We need vision, not vapid angst.

We used to have 12 million plus United Methodists (once we merged two declining denominations to make a new declining denomination).  So what?  Now we have 7.5 million.  Do we strategize ways to mobilize a spiritual community of 7 1/2 million to transform the world?  We do not.  We gripe and moan about the 5 million we lost and we dump resources into trying to capture a million more — with some silly delusion that the next million will be qualitatively superior to those we lost and those we’re left with.  Hey, if we don’t know what to do with the 7.5 million we’ve got, what makes us think we’re going to do so much better with the next million — or the next ten, for that matter.  Hundreds of books, DVDs, seminars, webinars, articles, etc., are aimed at helping us attract new “members” — all grounded in a fear-based message that “if we don’t get new people, we won’t survive.”  This survivalist message is “bad news” not “good news.”  We sold out our “gospel” to “drosspel.”  (Dross – waste matter, refuse…).  Where is our faith?

The Institutional Preservation Paradigm is impressive.  The momentum of 100+ years of growth, conquest, competition, acquisition and dominance exerts a terrible inertia.  We know how to exploit the system we have.  Real change would be costly — both personally and collectively.  We want things to get better, but not at our expense.  So we talk.  We rant.  We rally.  We put ads on TV.  We “brand.”  We form teams and task forces.  We do anything and everything but change.  The buildings we have were essentially designed, constructed and equipped for a church that no longer exists.  They now serve as beloved millstones around our necks, dragging us down and draining valuable resources that could be used for actual ministry and mission.  Professionalized staff ministry absolves laity of the need to step up and BE the church.  Interest payments on loans for bigger buildings is fast becoming the big-ticket item on many budgets — when the churches we already have are too big for the remnant congregations that occupy them.  Many of our conferences have more retired clergy than active clergy.  Our system is no longer tenable, but that’s okay — we’ll set up another committee, team or task force to study this 50-year-old problem again at the next General Conference.

Here’s an idea: let’s rethink our church.  No, let’s remake our church.  Let’s quit trying to make it something it used to be but isn’t anymore, and let’s make something… BETTER.  Let’s deconstruct some of the pieces and parts that no longer function well, and use those resources to… oh… I don’t know… maybe, make disciples of Jesus Christ for the transformation of the world…  Let’s quit rehashing old, tired church growth concepts and instead of thinking about how to get people to come to us, we mobilize to be the body of Christ in the world.  Let’s quit “updating” what we already know (do no harm, do all the good you can, attend to the ordinances of God — which is a much more compelling vision than ‘staying in love with God…’ didn’t get improved by its most recent “trotting out;” nor did our disciplinary primary task — reach out and receive people in the name of Christ, help people build relationship with God, nurture and strengthen them in their discipleship and stewardship, and send them forth equipped to live transformed and transforming lives — receive any substantive boost from radical hospitality, passionate worship, intentional faith development, extravagant generosity, and risk-taking mission and service.  All different language for the same old story.  The problem isn’t the story, it’s the way it gets used.  If we commit to our primary task/mission/5 Practices to do God’s will, we’re in great shape.  It is when we do them merely to preserve the institution that we get in trouble.  When it is all about us, it ceases to be about God.  One cannot serve two masters…

There is a growing movement away from “church” as we have known it to true Christian community not tied to location, denomination, or institution.  In this spiritual enlightenment paradigm, old rules not only don’t apply, but they alienate, divide and disillusion.  Creating something that changes lives, that inspires, that elevates, and generates beauty and hope — this is what more and more people seek.  Can’t we offer this?  Can’t we work together to make such a vision a reality?  I don’t think it will happen through petitions and votes, through debate and Discipline, through committee meetings and Robert’s Rules.  If we want a future, then let’s create it — but let’s create the future we believe God wants us to have, not merely some shadow of our bygone glory.

36 responses to “What’s Wrong With Us?”

  1. rjmythicadventures Avatar

    Dan, I’m a philosophy professor and active member of my local UMC congregation. I teach adult classes regularly at our church, and I’m in charge of our committee on Adult Education. When I read Vital Signs a few years ago, I realized we had the wrong idea. We were offering lots of interesting courses, but we weren’t consciously committed to making disciples. Since then, we’ve tried to get our focus right. And one of the lessons we’ve learned is this: that people really do want to be spiritually formed. They don’t just want to go around the circle and hear each others’ opinions. They want substantive learning opportunities, and they hope to become better disciples as a result.

    We’ve also learned that God will send us what we need. A year ago I realized that we needed to know more about church history. I could teach some of the material, but I was weak on the Middle Ages. Last fall a young woman began attending our congregation. She is a graduate student at one of our local universities, and she is specializing in medieval studies. We recognize her presence as an answer to prayer, and she is excited about sharing with us in an upcoming course. That’s just one of many examples.

    But my point is this: while our church council was asking, “How can we get more adults to come to Sunday School?” we simply asked, “How can we make disciples?” And that question has made all the difference.

    Ron Johnson, Portage, Michigan (USA)

    1. Dan R. Dick Avatar
      Dan R. Dick

      Fantastic! It isn’t easy, but it is fairly simple. I love hearing from people who get it and are making it happen. Thanks for letting me know about your journey thus far!

  2. Stephen Swanson Avatar
    Stephen Swanson

    As an “unchurched” person well under 40, I must say that the label is not nearly as offensive as the mentality behind it.

    I was raised in faith and continue to be deeply committed to that Christian faith. However, the inherent hypocrisy and superficiality behind people (who view the “Church” as something that touches only Sunday morning, 10% of their checking account (post tax), and the occasional Wednesday night)calling someone “unchurched” because they wants more of a community than big smiles and beliefs that do not pass the gates of their housing communities and politics is not being ignored.

    I don’t want small groups or movie nights or disc golf or new TV ads. I want someone asking, “How are you,” on Sunday morning to mean it, or better yet, I want them to not have to ask because we’ve been communicating all week long.

    I want a relationship with people who want a relationship with Jesus of Galilee, the Christ/Son of God/etc.

    1. Dan R. Dick Avatar
      Dan R. Dick

      Yay! Preach it.

  3. Becky Coleman Avatar
    Becky Coleman

    It may only be me, but “unchurched” raises my hackles. I believe there are people who have yet to hear and believe the Good News, but I also believe God is working all the time, everywhere, using whoever is available (see Bible for details how that happened in the past). Our task as Christians is how best to join God’s work already happening around us or that calls to our hearts. To me the main value of “church” is that community of believers who support and hold one another accountable.

    Many labeled “unchurched” grew up at least nominally as Christians. A narrative that moves us forward, a vision (Ed Friedman’s solution to many problems) that moves us toward accomplishing God’s Kin-dom — count me in, even as I move toward the 60th decade of life! I’ve been fed at the table, now it’s my turn to insure others are invited and fed — even if that looks different from what has and continues to sustain me. (not always easy to admit there are alternative ways).

    1. Dan R. Dick Avatar
      Dan R. Dick

      You know who really hates the term “unchurched”? The “unchurched”. (It’s why I use it infrequently and always put it in quotes.) I had a fantastic meeting once with a group of very committed young Christian disciples who made a conscious decision to NOT be part of a church. One person kept referring to them as “unchurched.” Finally, another person spoke up and said, “I hate the term “unchurched!” The first person said, “Well, what do YOU want to be called?” The response was, “You could try “Christian…”

      I’m hoping you are just heading into your 6th decade — though your 60th decade would be mighty impressive!

      1. Becky Coleman Avatar
        Becky Coleman

        What’s a factor of 10?! I did indeed mean 6th decade. Thanks!

  4. Taylor Burton-Edwards Avatar

    “The Institutional Preservation Paradigm is impressive. The momentum of 100+ years of growth, conquest, competition, acquisition and dominance exerts a terrible inertia.”

    Yes, it does.

    We need not just a different paradigm, but a different meta-narrative of what constitutes “success” as Methodist Christians.

    I think you touched on several viable candidates.

    The key is to realize things like the General Rules really do come from a different metanarrative– one that is actually about growing discipleship to Jesus, growth in grace, and growth in holiness of heart and life.

    Neither Jesus nor John Wesley was terribly impressed with large crowds. Jesus (in John 6) says things designed to make the crowd smaller and leave only those committed to his way. We see a similar pattern, and for similar reasons, in the many instances where John Wesley would read people who were not serious about living the General Rules out of the Methodist Societies (which was not the same as removing them from church– Methodists were not a church nor were their gatherings congregations at the time!).

    We can learn from Jesus, Wesley, and even Willow Creek on this point. Their Reveal study (http://www.revealnow.org) made it clear that there was NO correlation between increasing levels of activity in things like worship services, classes, serving in the local church, and even small groups and actually becoming more Christ centered in one’s heart and life. None.

    So they’re rearranging a lot of things– still doing so. And they’re measuring outcomes very differently. And they’re approaching how they help people move from non-religious to Christ-centered no longer on the old paradigm of who is part of more things, but rather on evidence of growth toward a Christ-centered life and what seems to help people take the next step to enhance that growth.

    I don’t advocate copying Willow Creek. But I do advocate listening to the wisdom they have found, a wisdom with deep resonances with what we still have in our own DNA, but have allowed, through long neglect, to become recessive.

    1. Dan R. Dick Avatar
      Dan R. Dick

      Thanks, Taylor.

  5. Bill Avatar
    Bill

    One word about our truthfulness in the church about wanting to “Rethink” anything. I attended a Rethink Church program where I raised questions about our commitment to global ministry, immigration and gay-lesbian-bi-sexual-transgender justice issues and was told “we’re not here to talk about those things. This is about how to reach new people and get them to come to church.” This was from our conference leaders and the people they hired just talked about tricks and gimmicks to get people to church. Rethink doesn’t mean think anything new or different, just do the same tired thinking we have done for years.

    1. Dan R. Dick Avatar
      Dan R. Dick

      Rethink church is a slogan, not an invitation. When we confuse marketing with communication, we are in big trouble. This is a program, not a movement, and as long as the UMC is in preservation/survival mode we won’t make any drastic changes that might lose us the folks we alredy have as we seek ways to entice new blood. It is a form of what I call Vampire Evangelism — “we” need “them” in order to survive. Once we admit we’re doing this and break the cycle we can start to get healthy again. Sorry about your experience. We held a Rethink Church event. It was well attended — well over 200 people, but only a handful under forty. I talked to four of the younger attendees and they were unanimously disappointed in the day, all saying some version of “this wasn’t anything like what I hoped/expected it would be.”

  6. Dave Avatar
    Dave

    The concept of starting over is a neat idea, but the reality is that the 7.5 million who remain in the denomination like things just the way they are. And they are fighting to keep it that way. (I include Bishops, Superintendents and Conference officers in this generalization.) So who is going to lead this grand make-over, when those with a vested interest don’t want change?

    My own congregation is in steep decline. They know what it will take to turn that around – a radical change in the way they do things. They don’t want to change, and they are willing to die in order to maintain the status quo.

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